Saturday, May 11, 2013

It's a Lowdown Dirty Shame

In the past few weeks, I've detected a theme in my inbox ... numerous faithful but silent blog readers confessing to me their enjoyment of shadowsexposed as if it's a dirty little secret.   Just yesterday, a gentleman I consider a friend noted:  "I always feel like such a perv looking at the shadowsexposed pics, but I can never look away."  Yikes ... does that make me a perv for posting them?   Guilty of luring innocents to the dark side?   How can something so beautiful, so mental, so sensual evoke such conflicted feelings?

This has all gotten me contemplating why so many lurk here instead of actively participating ... why such shame at consuming the art we so willingly serve up?   Where does this stigma come from and why is it so hard for people to be comfortable with their own yearning for more?  Religious indoctrination?  Socialization?  Inborn moral compass?  As always, I have my own theories, but I'm curious to hear your ideas, confessions, musings on these questions!  Remember you can comment anonymously ... trust me when I tell you that you are definitely not the only one who has been silently sliding in and out of the shadows with us!

Here's some thoughts on guilt and shame (accented by exclusive, never before released images by the brilliant Rae) to get you started!

Confession - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae

Shame is a soul eating emotion. ~ C.G. Jung 

Secrets - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae

Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself.  ~Anaïs Nin

Repent - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae

Guilt is a weight that will crush you whether you deserve it or not.  ~Maureen Johnson

Judgement - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae

It has always seemed that a fear of judgment is the mark of guilt 
and the burden of insecurity.  ~Criss Jami

Penance - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae

The difference between guilt and shame is very clear—in theory. 
We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are.  ~Lewis B. Smedes

Deliverance - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae

Once my heart was captured, reason was shown the door, deliberately and with a sort of frantic joy. I accepted everything, I believed everything, without struggle, without suffering,without regret, without false shame. How can one blush for what one adores?  ~George Sand

Absolution - 051113 - Image courtesy of Rae


  1. Wow! Now I know what was missing from my catechism classes. Somehow, I think you would have made the classes much more interesting, and the punishments would have been enjoyable.

    To the point of the discussion, there is still a large segment of the populace that considers sex taboo and "dirty", and these people can be very vocal. They can truly intimidate others. Also, I was raised a Catholic, and that religion makes guilt a birthright. Note the concept of original sin. Is it a wonder that so many people lurk? I will even be honest and plead guilty in the respect that I use a pseudonym on the internet.

    Finally, this was agreat topic because it contains so many great photos!

    1. Great insights, Derek (and thanks for the kind words!) I'm absolutely boggled as to why these anti-sex fanatics believe we were created with desires and pleasures? It's not like God designed us frigid and then Satan ran along after duct taping on all our tingly parts as a cruel attempt at corruption! lol Sex and pleasure and desire are integral parts of us and exist for us to rejoice in & savor!

  2. Religious indoctrination? YES. Socialization? When mixed with the former, YES. Inborn moral compass? Probably not so much if the aforementioned hasn't put its poison in already.

    Christianity and Islam in particular made it their own personal crusade to force the masses into shaming their own bodies and their sexuality out of some deluded sense of purity due to some even more deluded sense of being born into "sin".

    Just what IS "sin"? an offense against religious or moral law, an action that is or is felt to be highly reprehensible, an often serious shortcoming as defined in a dictionary? Seem like the vary definition of "sin" varies from culture to culture and even within from one sub-culture to another.

    So much guilt over nonsense all geared towards depriving human beings of their naturally given rights to pleasure and happiness over empty promises. Its one of the many things that infuriate me about religion.

    Really appreciating the photos. They really feed my "fetish for blasphemy".

  3. This is my first time commenting on you guy's blog and I'm trying to get back into the swing of things and participating more in the blogosphere. I thought this topic was a good place to pick things cuz its one that's bugging the hell out of me right now.

    I'm known for my art nudes, but not for my erotica. And as a pro photog, I'm still in the process of making those inroads in my mainstream work. The nude genre is a bit more accepting to clientele than provocative or erotica imagery. And provocative comes to me more naturally than erotica with the sexual connotations. I don't want to be afraid of either, but its not as easy integrating it into my workflow where client's perceptions are key to my income.

    I would guess an anonymous moniker might assist me in this regard, but I'm not as keen on hiding from my work. I want get to a point where I can stand by it, show it, and not allow public opinion to dissuade my creative endeavors. But maybe its the best answer in making that path a more permanent staple of my work.

    I think you get more inbox commentary than on the blog because of that same concept. Readers don't necessarily want anonymity, but they also don't want to put their names to it. The inbox is the path of least resistance. They can contribute. You get the feedback, but others don't get the benefit of it. You guys do indeed present context in a bold and unapologetic fashion, but there is still pseudonymic barriers between you and the public still. Your points still remain valid. The body is who we are. Sex is how we are made. Sensuality, erotica, flirtation, are elemental forces that make sex possible. Without it, sex would be 100% mechanical, unemotional, and reduced to a meager necessity to pass on genetic material. I don't know about you, but passing on genetic material doesn't make me WANT to pass on genetic material. Fucking does. And yet it is still difficult to come to terms with this obvious fact in a more public maskless forum. So guilt sometimes has something to do with it, but for me the apprehension stems from public influences on my income. Good post!


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