Thursday, May 2, 2013

Random Notes in the Key of B

Krysta Kaos - 050213 - Side B

Blog friend D.L. wrote so many good questions.  Below are a few for Miz B and me to answer.

What do you judge people by when first meeting them?
How they were introduced to me.  Their handshake.  The amount of eye contact.  There are no hard rules to how I will judge them, but by observing these three things, I usually get a gut feeling for them.

I tend to take note of details in their demeanor, then assume that none of these are to be believed!   I form impressions based on body language, clever turns of phrase (or lack thereof!), sparkles in the eye, and their overall posture.   I'm often quite right in my perceptions, but have learned over the years that people take months - if not years - to show you the totality of what lies within.  The less I presume to know, the better able I am to adapt to new information their behavior imparts.

If you could become invisible at will – what would you do with that power?
While the temptation to spy on others is always there, I would prefer to go for the subtle.  In my benevolent days, I would truly anonymously find ways to help those needing it.  It may be just slipping some food to a homeless person or softly whispering into a lonely person's ear, "You are loved."  


For much of this though, I think I would just enjoy truly disappearing and relaxing. With no one noticing me at all, I could relax and fully watch the day go by and feel inanimate, for once.  

As a joker, I would drive around and scare the hell out of people as they witness a "driverless" car go by.  

While I do enjoy the thought of having a voyeur's paradise with this one, I must admit that I find the thought of invisibility less than appealing!   Practical most definitely, but I enjoy being noticed and being able to influence events in full view.   I suspect I would use this gift rarely to confirm suspicions and get an edge in business dealings ... but it sounds like less fun than intuiting!

What surprised you about having sex?
The complexity and the primal nature of it.  I first noticed the primal parts of it, instinct, base desires, raw sex smells, tastes, sweat, noises, and raw movements.  Afterward, I noticed how complex it was due to all of these things I listed being blended into a mix of emotions, needs, intimacy, and connection.  All of them made sex so much more than fantasy, masturbation, or what is witnessed through porn.  

How varied it is.   Sex can be a billion different experiences ... day to day, person to person, mood to mood.   One would think that eventually the novelty would wear off, but perhaps that's only true if one fails to explore and vary and expand their experiences.  At one time I actually believed that sex was like any other skill ... something one could master with practice.   Now it seems to me that every mastery brings another level of exploration into view.

What non-sexual thing is sexual to you?
Cigarette smoke.  I do not advocate smoking, but there is something very sexual about it.  It isn't the obvious oral connections that do it for me.  The sexual part of it is the flow and sharing of air.  When I am with a smoker I am attracted to I see and hear her inhale through the cigarette, the red cherry growing bright orange with heat from the oxygen passing through it and pulling the smoke deep into her lungs, into her, and becoming part of her.  I then hear her exhale and see the smoke flow out of her after becoming part of her.  I then breath in, knowing that the smoky air I am pulling into me had just been in her and taken her and is now sharing the similar path in my own body.  

Wait ... there are nonsexual things?!   I'm often teased that any topic is half a degree of separation from sex for me.   I believe in theory that sometimes a tunnel is just a tunnel and a train is just a train ... but heaven help me, if one meets the other, it's sexy!   In my defense, I perceive sexuality to be more than just the raw physical act of intercourse, so naturally I see sexual elements everywhere.   If it's a physical, tactile thing - it's got a sexual element.  If it's a spirtual or emotional interaction - it's got a sexual element.   

When there is chemistry and sexual attraction, every action seems infused with seduction.  When attraction is fresh, every mundane motion is sensual ... the way she brushes her hair from her eyes, the way he pours his coffee.   I think a key to being a sexual force of nature is to stay tuned into the sensuality of these "non-sexual" things!

Is giving oral sex a pleasure or a chore?
Depends.  I love both sides of it, but it isn't always magic.  Is she enjoying giving it?  Is she enjoying and wanting more of it as I give it?  Depending on those answers, it can be a chore, or a pleasure, or a pleasurable chore.  

Oral is like any other kind of sex ... it can fall anywhere on the spectrum from "ewwww must I? " to "oh mercy let's do that again!"  As you all know by now, I'm rabidly opposed to doing anything just because I'm supposed to ... I try to live by doing what I passionately wish to.   I think any sexual act can vary vastly from partner to partner, circumstance to circumstance.   Truly great lovers don't follow a script ... they follow the moment.  

3 comments:

  1. Good answers.
    Here's mine-
    What do you judge people by when first meeting them? Mostly a firm handshake. Even from women - it doesn't have to be bone crunching - just firm. Wimpy, soft hand shakes always remind me of a funeral director eewww. Also look me in the eye when we first speak so I know we are engaged.

    If you could become invisible at will – what would you do with that power? Oh yes I would be somewhat Jekyll & Hyde on this both evil & good.
    I am voyeur so being able to look without being seen or influencing what is before me seems like fun. Influencing would be fun also. No right to privacy with me. Free rides on private jets would be nice. Playing the stock market would be easier. I think I would do a lot of revenge on criminals and would finance my life style by taking drug dealers money. Then throw in a little Dexter to make the criminals think about the shadows that go bump in the night.

    What surprised you about having sex?
    The feelings - inside and out - I thought my hand was pretty good until I found out what a woman's touch was like. Then the feeling of sliding inside her body was magical. I'm 63 and as of this morning I still haven't gotten over how wonderful that is. Also the lost of control some times. Both during sex and especially at orgasm time when it just slams you and you can't do anything but take the ride.

    What non-sexual thing is sexual to you?
    Ankle bracelets and the triangle space some women have right under their pussy when they stand with their legs together. Did I mention ankle bracelets.

    Is giving oral sex a pleasure or a chore?
    Pleasure - Pleasure - Pleasure. I have never found this a chore. My only regret is I was blessed with a short tongue. I never liked Kiss music but I did envy the long tongue. I wish I was a little alien like and had a tongue just above my cock so I could lick and fuck at the same time.

    One of my best oral sex was one time many years ago. I was kneeling between this sweet young girl's wide spread legs doing my best when she put her feet over my thighs. She grasp my cock between her toes and started giving me a toe fuck. My first. I dripped a fair amount of pre-cum back then so I was soon about as slick as the pussy I was wallowing in. Every once in awhile she would tightly capture the head of my cock just behind her big toes and we would rock together just a little, not enough to let me break free, just little fucking motions. About the 4th time I saw stars and with a loud groan squirted between her toes with all I had. That pushed her over. She hunched up, grabbed the back of my head in a death grip sending my nose right into her pussy. She kept grinding me into her crotch with her legs flapped against the side of my head like barn doors in the wind until she let out her own crisis ending moan and flopped back letting me go. Good thing as I was deliriously happy but toast at that point and out of breath.

    D.L. Wood

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  2. I forgot to comment on the image - I like it very much. A nice touch with the vintage girdle and sock suspenders.

    D.L. Wood

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  3. My answers:

    What do you judge people by when first meeting them?

    I try not to. The lack of eye contact or handshake may be shyness, a form of autism, or any of a million things. I do watch body language and will get nervous if someone is chaotic mover or has aggressive postures. I listen, and watch how they respond to me.

    If you could become invisible at will – what would you do with that power?

    Hike naked. I love the way the sun feels on my skin.

    Other than that, I don’t need or want to be invisible.

    What surprised you about having sex?

    Ah.. it still surprises me every time. The first contact, that takes my breath away. I’m always shocked at my physical response. It’s as if I wasn’t awake, or alive, and now I am fully and completely in the moment. It’s fireworks.. and no matter how much I think I remember it, it’s always more than I expected.


    What non-sexual thing is sexual to you?

    While I agree with Miz B entirely, I still have to admit that some “non-sexual” things turn me on more than others. Put me behind the wheel of a fast, responsive car and I’m interacting with it in a way that is quite intimate. Being surrounded by the sounds of the engine telling me what it needs, my feet, and hands connected to it, working with it, pushing for speed, the hard turn… ah… I’m a junkie. Manual transmissions aren’t necessary for a good time, but they certainly add to the high. I’m nearly as happy sitting in the passenger seat watching someone drive well.

    Is giving oral sex a pleasure or a chore?

    With a partner who knows how to receive? Seriously, one of my favorite things. Yes please.

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