Sunday, July 7, 2013

Sexual Independence

Independence is a condition of a nationcountry, or state in which its residents and population, or some portion thereof, exercise self-government, and usually sovereignty, over the territory. The opposite of independence is a dependent territory. - Wikipedia 
Another Independence Day has passed in the USA and got me to pondering that word, Independence.   I then started thinking of my childhood and the 70's and all the Independence Days from that time.  Along the mental journey, I thought about the sexual revolution, which I missed by a decade or two.

Krysta Kaos - 070713 - SideB

In that mighty revolution, people were not trying to get out from under an oppressive foreign government.  They were finally taking ownership of their sexuality and gender and shaking off the yokes of religious, political, and cultural dogma holding down their sexual lives.  They were striving for their sexual independence.

I can't imagine the sexual life prior to the sexual revolution where the genders had prescribed roles.  On tv, couples slept in separate beds.  Sex, for many, was a hidden pleasure that could not be celebrated.  For those in power, sex was their private playground they dabbled in with their wealth and prestige, but was kept as secret as possible.  If you were gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender,  or questioning, you were lucky if you were invisible, otherwise you could be prosecuted, beaten or killed for your sexuality.

Now if we fast forward to the present, many criticize the hyper-sexualization of media and culture and blame it on the relaxing of attitudes since the 1970's.  The recent civil rights struggles for equality in marriage are starting to turn to acceptance of gays and lesbians having the freedom to exchange nuptials.  Walgreens has a Sexual Wellness section online as well as in their physical stores that sell vibrators, lube, condoms, as well as pregnancy and other sexual health items.

So, at this time of celebrating freedom and independence, take a moment to think about what it means to be sexually free.  Question what is holding you back.  Is it culture, the system, or your own limitations?  Are the limitations reasonable or are they shackles, something you should fight against?  After contemplating all this, go have some fun with a partner, a group, or by yourself and celebrate your sexual independence day.

Chained - 070713 - Miz B

1 comment:

  1. Great thoughts, Side B! I suspect many of us live under limits that are nothing more than habit and echoes from moral guilt trips we've endured along the way. I have to send a bit shoutout to science for the sexual revolution! Undeniably, the freedoms we now enjoy would never have come about without the Pill ... there is no sexual revolution for straight people without the freedom of women to indulge without playing conception roulette! Naturally, there are other issues in play now (if you haven't done your research of the emergence of super drug resistant STDs, you might want to catch up and play smart people!) , but the Pill was a game-changer! Hip hip hooray for those sexy lab-coated liberators!


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