Monday, February 24, 2014

Point of Impact


When she's abandoned her moral center and teachings...when she's cast aside her facade of propriety and lady-like demeanor...when I have so corrupted this fragile thing and brought out a writhing, mewling, bucking, wanton whore for my enjoyment and pleasure.....enticing from within this feral lioness...growling and scratching and biting...taking everything I dish out to her.....at that moment she is never more beautiful to me. ”   ~Marquis de Sade

Point of Impact - 022414 - Miz B



For all the work I've done in BDSM, I've never before been involved in creating an image that more completely captured the moment of impact.   This gem of timing shows clearly the transfer of energy from flesh to flesh, woman to woman.   Naturally, being introspective, this got me thinking about the emotional point of impact when two sexual energies collide.

A lover recently evaluated us both as being junkies for that intense impact, requiring greater and greater collisions to achieve the same rush.   I believe he is correct, that we have, through our explorations, become jaded to the ordinary.  We've dabbled in so many fetishes that they are no longer taboo.   We are chasing an ever more elusive dragon, knowing full well that our pursuit will take us deeper and deeper into the shadows of human sexuality, likely at great cost to our sanity and well-being.

Human sexual and emotional journeys  often ride the fine line between life and death - orgasms are known as le petit mort (the little death) and we speak of loving someone to death.   Words are not accidents and there is often a hair's breadth of separation between surrender and suicide.   Consider erotic asphyxiation - sexual pleasure intensified right up until the point at which it's ended by death.   In breath play, one tries to ride the edge of consciousness ... everything becomes more vibrant and intense ... but just a second too long and everything fades to gray ....

Point of Impact b/w - 022414 - Miz B



From domination scenarios to unprotected sex, from infidelity to self-sacrificing love of the emotionally unavailable, many many people engage in risky behaviors, trying to recapture that first rush of lust or love.   In pondering this topic, I find I have no real answers, no real moral of the story ... but I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this reckless rush for sensual, erotic, and emotional fulfillment.  How far is too far?  At which point does one need to quit cold turkey or is it possible to manage one's addictions and control the headlong rush towards dangerous ecstasy?   


Friday, February 14, 2014

Going atomic for Valentine's Day


B Mine - 021414 - Miz B

**This is a unique post for Shadowsexposed.  The image is deeply intimate and beautifully created by Miz B's creative team.  I am going to share my reactions, impressions, and critique on it, culled from a few of our private online chats.   Happy Valentines Day**


“He slides himself inside her, her heart is bursting. The pithy organic organ can't hold all that she feels for this man. When she reaches her peak, her brain supernovas, a small, perfect death.” - Mrs. Alenko

Yes, this causes a major stirring of the loins.  My base male instincts can take over the mental desire to be all artsy and theoretical.  I have learned that it is just fine to create stuff that causes a deep physical lust.  Our primal instincts and desires should be celebrated and evoked, with that said I also want to talk about the art of it.

It is exquisite.  I love explicit erotic art that is done well.  Some will say it is porn, but it is art.  Maybe porn can be art, but I wont get into that debate here.  With mainstream porn, I tend to go from image or video to the next, not pay attention to the single image.  With explicit erotic art, I want and need to focus deeply on the one image.  Yes, this photo makes me aroused, but as art I notice all the elements that make it transcend and elevate.  The wetness of his penis, the desaturated beautiful pinkness of the labia, and the beautiful thickness of the wetness running down on him.  Of course it makes me wonder if that is his ejaculate, hers, or both.. which then sends the mind spinning as well.  This single photo has narratives all around it.

This photo can get into the whole objectification bit.. which may be part of my reaction as well.  I don't feel this is an objectifying photo, or if it is, both of them are objectified.  Maybe all visual art is both objectifying and humanizing.. just some art is better at doing both.

Another thing I also love about this photo is that while we can't see faces, I can feel the heat and connection between the two subjects.  If it is post orgasmic, mainstream porn would have had him either pull out and ejaculate on her or pull out to show the evidence leaking... what I love about this photo is the reality. Most lovers won't just pull out when the moment was so real and connected.  We remain connected and breath in the moment together.

I want to thank Miz B for bravely sharing a very intimate and emotionally charged photo.  We would appreciate respectful comments (by respectful, I mean it is fine to disagree with me, to have different readings of the photo, etc., but please respect the artists who created it). 

I'll add a quick two cents here to say that as usual the true nature of art is the trust and synergy that happens between the models, the photographer, the post-production geniuses, and the viewers.   I believe we have delved quite well into the art/porn debate in past posts (if you are new, jump into the archives and feel free to jump into old discussions - they are usually more interesting as time goes on and new opinions join the mix!).   Those of you who have been with us for quite  a while know that I have a major "thing" for the facial expressions and eye contact of erotic art ... but sometimes there is beauty in anonymity and universality.   I am delighted that Side B was able to perceive tenderness and true intimacy in such an image ... so we felt it appropriate to take Valentine's Day in a slightly unpredictable direction.   Kudos to everyone involved in the creation of this image - including you, our sexy readers! 

Monday, February 10, 2014

OMG! It has been a year... and what a year it has been.

Last January, Miz B and I started this blog.  We could regale you with stats (i.e., 26k+ page views, over 277 comments, 104 posts, etc.) but numbers can be mood killers.  What we are going to share with you are our favorites.  Each of us will share a favorite post or two to reread and which partner's photo is our favorite to see again and again.

Melrose Mischief 2 - 011414 - Miz B
My favorite photo from the erotic artist Miz B was from her last post, Erotic Interludes: Melrose Mischief.  This image was part of a series.  It is my favorite because it is rich in red (my favorite color) and while not explicit, flows with erotic pleasures from the curves of her breast and the open-lipped moan I can hear her trying to stifle.

I have a couple of favorite posts.  It all began with our first post, Welcome to shadowsexposed.  This is where it all began and I still get charged up reading it.  We were a bit wide-eyed and naive, but the enthusiasm and love, lust and desire to expose the shadows is still our mission.

My second favorite post was Smoke gets in your eyes.  I like this one because it made me think of how humans can find so many indirect items erotic and how intimacy can be different for each of us.  Maybe if we take time to explore and appreciate hidden intimacies, we can build a connection even more intimate and shared.

Oh my, how am I ever supposed to pick just a few?   Is it artistic masturbation that I still fall down the rabbit hole in our archives and wander breathlessly through the shadows of our own posts?!   

I'm going to cheat (it's my blog and I'll cheat if I want to!) and pick two favorite images!   My favorite art image from Side B's incredible contributions would have to be this killer projection ... it's so surreal and vibrant - it visually arouses me!   


Candace Nirvana / After Salvador Dali - 071913 - SideB




Moon Marie - 031713- SideB





For sensuality, though, my favorite is this simple shot ... I can hear and smell and taste her fierce sexuality when I look at this image!








As far as my favorite posts, I share Side B's affinity for our very first plunge into this brave new world!   Other standouts for me were Opposites Attract: Interracial Eroticism ,  Desire In Old Art , &  I Objectify Women .   I'm very proud of what a powerful mix there has been in the last year of straight up sexual dynamite, well-thought out analysis, and willingness to explore.   We are curious, lustful, artistic, passionate, sometimes conflicted, always sensual, and genuinely aroused by our topics and our relationship with you, our sexy readers!

Before we close, we want to thank you.  You are our partner in this and we appreciate your loyal reading, comments, and thoughts.  We thank you for not always agreeing with us and challenging what we wrote.  You keep us on our toes and make us want to push even further into these shadows... and trust me, we will.

We truly do appreciate all the suggestions, comments, and requests that inspire us to make more of this amazing place ... and to those of you who continue to hold back and express your opinions only privately :  take your time, but life is short - come on in, the water is fine!   We promise not to bite unless you beg us to ;-)

I also must thank Miz B.  She has been a friend for over... a number of years.  This year has been a gift to me working with her amazing intellect, blazing hot beauty (both in front of and behind the scenes), sensual mind and spirit, mischievous sense of humor, and passion for always moving forward and creating more, better and always unique.

This whole journey through the shadows would never have been born without Side B's fearless invitation to me to unleash my outloud voice   ... I'm so grateful to have such a dear friend, supportive co-blogger, and brilliant artist by my side in this wonderful, wicked world of shadowsexposed.  


“It is only by enlarging the scope of one’s tastes and one’s fantasies, by          sacrificing everything to pleasure, that the unfortunate individual called Man, thrown despite himself into this sad world, can succeed in gathering a few roses among life’s thorns.” Marquis de Sade