Saturday, December 13, 2014

Memoirs of a Jaded Romantic : In the Sweet Afterglow

“There was a time in my life not so long ago, that I experienced a moment that could only be described as pure love and happiness. 
It was as if love and happiness were finally real to me and were something tangible, embodied in that moment. 
They were in everything I could hear, touch, taste and smell. 
I could see them with my very eyes – reflected back at me in someone else’s. 
They were all around me, breathing life into me, as if wrapping me up in a blanket.

And in that moment I caught a glimpse of something. 
A parallel universe - a way things could have been. 
An alternate reality where that love and happiness were mine to keep, a place where I didn’t have to let them go.

I only hope that one day…. many years from now when I am an old lady and I close my eyes for the last time – I will open them again and find myself there.” 
~ Ranata Suzuki

Afterglow - 121314 - Miz B

And thennnnnn....

Foreplay rocks, intercourse is awesome, orgasm is fucking outstanding.   But an often neglected part of sex is one of my personal favorites.  Afterglow is like dessert after a five-course gourmet dinner.   Somehow even when you think you are satiated, it's the perfect finish to a lovely evening and a little goes a long way.

Foreplay reveals your partner's heart and character in very simple ways.   Anyone can act affectionately when it serves their purposes - in the quest for sexual conquest many sweet lies are murmured and many tender touches can be faked.   In the heat of the moment, a lover can be passionately engaged in a moment, without being personally engaged with you.   But once that primal release is achieved, all niceties evaporate.   That woman who gazed into your eyes a moment ago bolts for the door and that man who whispered sugar against your neck can't even remember your name.   This isn't an ugly truth to a Jaded Romantic, it's simply reality.

Rare is the lover who lingers long past climax to drink his fill of your lips. Precious is the woman who breaths in your scent on her skin and glows with the warmth of your aura mingling with hers, as your pulses slow and synchronize.   When you find that you are as attracted to your lover after release as before ... when you know that all it will take is the right look, the subtlest brush of their breath against your skin in the right spot, to re-ignite the passions in you both ... there is a luxuriant joy in feeling their skin against yours and drifting to sleep.   Time melts away when you linger in this luminous space for two - and it's a blessing to find someone who will drift along with you on the currents of possibility.  

Foreplay moans, "I want your body."  Intercourse growls, "Take me."  Orgasm screams, "Oh God, yes!" Afterglow whispers, "I want YOU - please stay!"    Afterglow is the time when we are completely exposed, together in the shadows, and there is no place we'd rather be, nobody we'd rather be with, and no version of us we'd rather be.   

Spinning on that dizzy edge
I kissed her face and kissed her head
And dreamed of all the different ways I had
To make her glow
~Just Like Heaven, The Cure

1 comment:

  1. For me the afterglow is when the connection is sealed. The afterglow can vary differently each time and with each lover. It can be quiet kissing and caresses while holding each other. One of my favorites is her on her tummy on my tummy and looking at each other and just softly talking and laughing. Another favorite is enjoying takeout and feeding each other because we were too ravenous for each other to eat before the event. I guess that the beauty of the moment is sharing it with him or her and living in it.


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