|Reflections I - 010815 - Miz B|
A man has only one escape from his old self to see a different self in the mirror of some woman's eyes.
~ Clare Boothe Luce
The miracle of a new lover is not just in discovering them ... it's in discovering who you can be through their eyes. I've written before about the different sides of myself that different lovers have drawn out - the different chemical reactions that occur between personalities. But every now and then, you meet someone who opens your eyes on another level - who shows you a potential in yourself that might remain undiscovered without them.
It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.
~ John Joseph Powell
When we begin to crave the company of another person, we want more than their company: we want to be who we are in their presence. You know what I'm talking about - the person who makes you feel funnier with their laugh, more attractive with their admiration, sexier with their hunger for you. It's not exactly that they make you better, it's just that when they see the best in you, you start to see it too!
The greatest of lovers don't just perform spectacularly in bed, somehow they elevate your game as well. The best sex ever is when you both leave feeling like you just gave a personal best performance that somehow wouldn't have been possible with anyone else! When you find that kind of lover, absorb the ideal you that they see ... live up to and grow into it.
There are two ways of spreading light; to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.
~ Edith Wharton